It’s seems like there is nothing you can do about it when its really bad.

That feeling in your chest, all the thoughts swirling through your head.

The profound edginess, longing and confusion… All at the same time.

Sometimes it’s like a slow burning ache and other times it’s an all out flare up thats so overwhelming that drugs, sleep or a frontal lobotomy seem like the only thing that will make it go away.

You want to call her, contact her, get her back… You’re compelled to do something other than just sit there and stew in what you’re feeling.

Here is a quick way to get relief that not only works right when you do it, but the effects compound over the coming days and weeks.

Rearrange as much about your surroundings, your daily routines and the places you hangout as possible.

Seems almost trivial doesn’t it? Its far more powerful than you might think.

Here’s why it works.

Even after you have gotten rid of your ex girlfriends stuff, your mind still has associations with her everywhere.

I do mean everywhere too… From the place in the apartment where she used to sit, to the food that was in the fridge when she was around,  or what you’re bedroom looked like when she was in it.

All of these associations create a pressure on you, whether you are aware of it or not, to keep thinking about your ex girlfriend.

Associations are like fuel to the flame, the less you have around you the less fuel your heartbreak has to go on. Most of the time associations work unconsciously, so the less of them you have around, the less pull they will have on you to keep thinking about her.

Trust me, if the break up is fresh, you are probably going to be thinking about your ex girlfriend alot regardless… But removing or changing up the associations you have with your ex give you more breathing room between all the painful and repeatative thoughts.

So how do you it? The basic idea is to change up anything about your life that is still the same as it was when you and your ex girlfriend were together.

• Change up the furniture and decoration in your apartment as much as you can. Do this one first, and as soon as possible. Put up new pictures, rearrange the rooms. Switch everything in your office around… Even your screensaver or desktop theme.
• Change up all the routines you have during the day. First you have to become aware of them though, so stop and think about a typical day in your life and how you can mix things up. Change your route to and from school or work. Change your regular morning routine, eat at different places for lunch. Work out at a different gym location. Start watching a new television show in the evening.
• Change all the places you normally hang out. Make a list of the place you previously used to hang out, esepcially during the evenings or weekends when you were with your ex and resolve not to hang out there anymore for the next few weeks. Find new places to go instead, and make it a habit for the next few weeks to keep looking for new places to hangout.
• Do a full out cleanse of any accumlated junk in your closets. Throw out your old clothes, put your old electronics on ebay.

Some interesting things will start to happen when you do this.

First, when you rearrange your space and throw your old stuff, you’ll expend a lot of the built up nervious energy that is making you feel worse.

Part of heartbreak is a “fight or flight reaction” your body is having, which is calling you to go do something… And this will help curb it for a while.

You’ll also get a “blank slate” feeling once you’re done. Once you do it, you’ll know what I’m talking about.

Next, the more you change things up in other areas of your life the more novel and different your surroundings feel, the less associations your mind is going to have to hold onto…

Also, novelty stimulates the same brain chemicals that are now lacking without your ex girlfriend around… This is part of the reason so many people overspend and shop so much when they have just broken up.

Very quickly this will start to give you a little more space in your mind. Now of course, getting over an ex isn’t that easy, but this is going to provide you with some built in releif that helps you all the more

Oh yeah. The more things you change up, the more the effects compound…

So the real take away you should get from this is, stop surfing the web for 30 mintues and change up your room and your surroundings as much as possible and see how you feel.

The first few hours or days right after you break up with your girlfriend can be one of the most painful things any guy has to endure.

The avalanche of emotions, your mind racing at 100 mph, constant ruminating over what you should have said or done… Or what you could say or do to change things.

First of all, you don’t have to play it off.

It’s been shown in studies that the trauma at the end of relationship is right behind the death of a loved one.

Even more so than the loss of a job, moving and many other things people consider to be stressful.

In other words, break ups f&$#! hurt.

But even if it is “natural” to hurt this much, it doesn’t make it suck any less.

All of it can be so overwhelming- it would just be great if you just had an “off switch” at least for a little while so you can breath.

Or sleep.

Contrary to what we’ve been told there are things you can do to get relief and get over your ex girlfriend quickly.

Unfortunately, most guys don’t think there is anything they can do about it, so they usually make the biggest mistake of all.

They just endure it.

They stew in it, mostly in silence and try to distract themselves as much as possible, so they don’t have to feel the pain they’re going through. They wait it out, in other words.

Guys who think that “time will heal” them usually end up stewing in their own anger and longing to the point where it affects their whole out look on the world.

Which in turn effects their work, accomplishments and their social lives.

Not to mention the built up resentment and mistrust tends to rear its ugly head in their future relationships.

If you stop and think about it, there are probably a few guys you have known over the years that consider the end of their relationship with their last girlfriend as the point when things started to get worse for them in their lives.

It’s more common than you might think.

Then there are other guys that, in addition of seething in their pain and resentment, deperately look for another girl to fill the void.

Here is why that usually doesn’t work, or makes things worse.

Chances are you’ve noticed that when you had girlfriend you really liked, girls have been more forward, more friendly and generally more attracted to you right?

It’s one of those universal things all of us guys have noticed, but its sort of confusing.

Generally when you are with a girl you’re into, you’re happier, more confident, more integrated…Therefore more attractive to women.

Girls just have a sixth sense for this stuff. It’s weird.

Well, when you are looking for another girl to fill the space left behind by your ex girlfriend, that same principle starts working against you.

Girls can sense the neediness and the lack of confidence that comes from you not feeling complete, and that tends to severely cripple your options with women.

So if you can’t wait it out or immediately replace your ex—what do you do?

The hard part is that it sure as hell doesn’t feel like you have any control over what you can do…

You know that constantly thinking about her makes you feel like hell…But it’s so hard to stop.

You know that you would be better off accepting that its over, but you still keep thinking about how to get back together with her.

You want to have a blank slate, and just be normal again… But it’s hard to when this post break up fog has settled onto every aspect of your life.

So the first step here is a shift in thinking.

Ready?

What YOU spend your time doing and thinking in the days and weeks right after your break up has a direct effect on how fast you stop feeling heartbroken and whether you ever fully move on completely.

What this means is that you have a lot more control than you think over how long you spend hung up on your ex.

Once you realize you have control over what happens in this part of your life, the trick is to start doing things that help you move on and feel better everyday…

No matter how much you don’t feel like doing them. Even if it’s a small thing… Hey, you read this article so that’s a start.

The more you do them, the more effect they have, and the more control YOU start to have over it. The whole thing starts to snowball forward.

Oh yeah. The earlier you start, the better.

Here are 7 ideas on what you can start doing now to relieve heartache in the coming days and weeks.