Coping With The Emptiness That Sets In After Breaking Up With Your Ex Girlfriend...

What is that "emptiness" feeling?

Its not the same as heartbreak...

Its not that lonely feeling you have when you find yourself not having someone to talk to when you have the urge to talk to your ex girlfriend.

It's not the same as a "love spell" even though most guys tell me the emptiness usually tends to set in right after one...

Often guys describe it as...

"Everything else feels like it has no meaning..."

"I try to distract myself with things that I used to find fun... But nothing really affects me."

"I feel numb to all the other stuff I used to enjoy..."

"I get this feeling like I'm constantly looking for something that isn't there..."

Something is going on, and just like feeling heartbroken, its hard to describe but there really is no doubt that its there and it definitely HURTS.

So what's really going on? And is there anything you can do about it?

When you are still in love with a girlfriend that is no longer in your life...

A huge space is left behind...

On many different levels of your being your life is now different...

And anytime something that was once there is no longer present, a huge vacuum or VOID is left behind.

Whether you knew it or not, many parts of your unconscious mind adjusted itself around the idea of you being with this girl.

Everything from your identity, how you view yourself, or your "self image" became INTERTWINED with your ex girlfriend.

The FUTURE you had imagined for the two of you.

The PAST you and her shared that can never be replaced. The history of your relationship that can never be replaced.

You developed patterns of thinking and feeling that were built around her, and the longer you were with her and the stronger you felt about her (i.e. the more in love with her you were) the more these patterns solidified into your personality... But after breaking up with her they no longer apply... They just hurt.

This is NOT just the case with long term relationships.

If you felt a powerful connection with a girl that you just meet and somehow you just felt really strong bond with you and her... And it turned out that she didn't feel as strongly as you... Then its very possible for your identity to shift itself around her VERY QUICKLY.

And most of the time without you realizing it until she's gone.

When you're really into a girl or when you've been with her a long time you think about her a lot...

Probably a lot more than you realize.

And most of the time they are positive ones...

What you guys are going to do on the weekend...

How familiar it is to have her on the other end of the phone anytime you call...

Planning things to do with her in the future...

The comfort of the regular and connected sex...

There are all kinds of associations you've made (without knowing) in your life that have her in it and stonger you felt and longer it was the MORE of them you have built up.

This is why being with her feels "normal".

But now all of those thoughts have all this pain and loss attached to them.

Now when you think about the plans you made with her... Its painful because you start think about what could have been...

When you think about calling her because there is something you want to tell someone...And you can't really think of anyone you want to talk to aside from her... You end up keeping it in.

When you find yourself with a weekend ahead of you, it seems long and ominous instead of something fun to think about to look forward to.

You have gotten used to feeling a certain way when you were with her...

The relaxed and "whole" feeling you had when you were with her.

The excitement and anticipation of sex...

The burst of energy you would get when you were with her...

You still have all of that... But now all the painful feelings have RECORDED OVER THEM.

So as soon as you start thinking about the way things "used to be" when you things were going good between the two of you... You're reminded that they may never be that way again.

You think about how it felt to have sex with her...

And you feel the longing to have it again...

And then your mind goes to thinking about the other guy that will be having sex with her instead of you.

You think about the plans you had together and how they have to change now that you aren't with her...

And you get pissed off that things had to get all screwed up between the two of you...

And how she could leave that behind...

Or how you blew it with her.

If you saw your ex girlfriend after you broke up...

Or the two of you still had sex afterwards...

You probably noticed that at first it felt really good.

Things probably felt normal for a short while.

But it probably didn't last that long because all of these "break up" feelings got in the way.

When you are really in love with, attracted to or bonded with a girl your body "rewards" you for every interaction with her.

Talking on the phone with her...

Touching her...

Kissing her...

The sex...

Your body gave you a "chemical high" every time you did any of those things with her...

In fact, when things were really good between the two of you... You got the high even THINKING about her.

These are some of the most powerful and ancient systems in your body coming to life... They are the "bonding chemicals" and they are only this strong between two lovers and between a mother and her children.

And they are stronger than any DRUG out there.

And just like someone in rehab, you are having a real WITHDRAWAL from those drugs...

Most guys aren't even aware of what's really happening to them in those painful days and weeks right after breaking up...

So they don't DO ANYTHING about it.

They just suffer through it...

The biggest mistake any guy can make if he wants to get over his ex girlfriend is to sit and stew over it...

It can be overwhelming to realize how profoundly effected you are by not having your girlfriend in your life anymore...

But the good news is that you are far better equipped to move on and get over her quickly than most guys will ever be...

In my ebook "Get Over Her Now" I going into setting up your life so these thoughts, feelings and pain fade automatically.

In my and audio program "Over Her Overnight" I talk about the VERY BEST ways change your whole inner and outer reality to so that everything about her becomes "old news".

Check out the details here...