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How Your Ex Girlfriend Will Make It HARDER For You To Get Over Her...I'm going to tell you about a DEEP and unconscious fantasy that ALL girls have... Ready? Every girl, deep down LIKES the idea of guys being hopelessly in love with them... Even if they don't love them back. Girls will never admit to this to you... Girls usually never admit this to themselves... If you ask your ex girlfriend she will definitely deny it... But the idea of having guys around and in their life that are "platonically" in love with them is appealing... Their sense of popularity and attractiveness... They like the validation. They like the boost to their egos... They like the constant validation it gives them. And this is why girls will often keep guys around after breaking up with them... They will lead them on... They will still be territorial when there are other women involved... And often if they see signs that you're moving on, they will starting acting like they want you back. Here are a few main reasons that girls will lead you on and send you mixed signals and keep you around even when she doesn't want to be with you anymore... And even if she is seeing other guys at the same time. Keeping You Around Is Easy... This is can be rough pill to swallow. If you and her were together for a while and it's clear that she was the one that had the power in the relationship... Then chances are she sees you as a familiar comfort she can keep coming back to. You're the reliable guy that is there for her when she really needs someone. She Doesn't Understand The Pain She Is Causing You Because She's Already Over You... Because there is a good chance she got over you long before she broke up with you, then doesn't have the internal weirdness that you have over just being friends. Because the chemistry has faded for her and she mentally had the time to get over the relationship... She really is ready to move onto other things, but in the meantime she really sees you as a valued friend. She doesn't realize the pain that it is causing you in the meantime because you haven't moved on as much as she has. So while you're still trying to get over her and making it worse by still seeing her... It doesn't have the same effect on her because she doesn't feel the same way anymore. There Are Some Parts Of You Your Ex Girlfriend Still Wants To Keep... You and your ex girlfriend got together for a reason. There was something about you that attracted her and got her into you at some point. And as you were building a relationship, even if it was a short one, she became attached to certain things about you. All of that hasn't gone away for her... If she isn't already with another guy, there are things about you that are familiar, comfortable and normal for her. Stuff she isn't ready to give up... Yet. The real blow for most guys comes when they are replaced by that other guy... And suddenly she doesn't want you around as much... Or at all.
Waiting Around For Your Ex Girlfriend To Change Her Mind Or Come Back To You Will Only Cause You ANOTHER Avalanche Of Heartbreak & Pain...While most guys will never admit it, they often let their ex girlfriends string them along... They wait because every now and then something happens that gives them hope... Their ex girlfriend will say or do something that has them convinced that she is going to "come around" at some point. So they leave themselves open to get hurt WORSE. If you want a checklist of specific things to look for so you know if she is actually "undecided" or if she is just keeping you around for the above reasons then check out the audio series "Over Her Overnight." In it I go over the "mixed signals" and why they trip guys up so easily-and I talk about the 3 behaviors that YOU have probably already seen in her that are the "telltale" signs as to whether you are just wasting your time waiting around for her. You can watch them here... |