RULE #5: No Explanation Or “Reason” Will Make You Feel Any Better About Getting Dumped…

Your girlfriend’s reason for leaving probably doesn’t make that much sense…

Even if it does make sense, you’re probably still spending a lot of time wondering why things ended up the way they did.

This is where you can cause ALOT of pain for yourself.

Trying to connect the dots…

Playing detective in your head…

Figuring out where you went wrong.

This is called “rumination.”

Replaying the same stuff over and over again in your head.

And the worst part about it is that once you get started, it’s very hard to stop.

But often what many guys don’t realize is that this is how you add fuel to heartbreak that you’re already feeling.

By constantly revisiting the situation that caused it in the first place.

And this usually only gets really bad when you’re getting dumped by a girl you really like…

After getting dumped by your girlfriend its natural to keep asking why it happened… Whether your ex girlfriend gave you a clear answer or not… Or whether you are still talking to her or not… The reason for the two of you breaking up probably just isnt satisfying… Especially if you’re the one who got dumped by a girl you were still really into.

Whatever reasoning there is behind your girlfriend leaving it still isn’t going make you not want to be with her.

Unfortunately guys often get stuck in the trap of trying to “explain themselves” or even demanding a better explanation from their ex girlfriends…

Only to find that they don’t feel any better afterwards…

AND it didn’t bring them any closer to getting back together with her either.

Clearing up a misunderstanding is NOT going make your ex girlfriend want you back… But it can be really tempting to think so… Most of the time it is never “one thing” it is an accumulation of reasons that your ex girlfriend can’t express very well anyway.

Clearing up one thing is just going to bring up another…

Argueing with her reasons or convincing her to stay with you will only make backfire…

Asking her to give you an explanation is only going leave you asking more question AND feeling worse ..

You have to get over being dumped first… Then things will start to make sense.I think of this as one of the maddening ironies of getting over a broken heart and moving on…

When its really painful and the “emotional fog” is still setting in…

Nothing about what is happening is going to make sense.

Which really is ironic becuase this is when you need them to…

When you get over her and the dust settles a little bit, then you’ll begin to see what happened.

The more time and mental energy you spend trying to figure out why your ex girlfriend left, the longer it will take for you to get over her…

Takeaways…

  • The more you look for an answer, the longer it will take you actully start getting over her.
  • Asking her to give you another explanation is just going bring up more questions… And more pain.
  • Playing connect the dots in your own head is just going to make you focus on HER and elevate her even more.

 

Take 2 Minutes To Tell Me About How Things Ended With You And Her And Then Watch The Video To Learn How To Avoid The 4 Most Humiliating Mistakes Guys Make With Their Ex Girlfriends…