Getting Over A Break Up As A Guy


Getting over a break up is very hard. Many people think it is worse on a girl than a guy, but in my experience when my ex-girlfriend dumped me she recovered at warp speed and I was hurting for more than a year.

My girlfriend dumped me because according to her she wanted us to date other people which meant that she already was dating someone else. We had dated for three years beginning in our junior year of high school. I was devastated by how easily she dumped me. After a break up you literally dissect every minute of your relationship looking for where you may have gone wrong.

Relationships breakups, and other things can really get you down but I had to continue on because I was in college. The first week was hard, I turned off my phone and slept in my dorm room all day and then went to classes. I did not brush my teeth or comb my hair. I just felt like a horrible person who would never find someone to love me ever again.

A few weeks later, I actually was desperate and started watching the “Bachelor”, and then I knew my life was over. I could not believe one guy could have tons of girls wanting him and I was alone. I knew I had to do something to better my situation quickly or I’d be that guy who always invited his sister to weddings and events because he had no life.

hands clapping at concert

After a month, I knew that I had to get over a break up the best way possible. I began thinking of ways to yank myself out of my funk and decided to go to a concert on campus. I love music so going outside and listening to music seemed like fun to me.

At the concert, I met a few new friends one was a guy and one was a girl. We really got to know each other during the concert and I started to see that life after breakups can be good if you put yourself out there again. When I got back to my dorm room, I took down my pictures of my ex and me and put them in a box in my closet. I then deleted her as a Facebook friend and deleted her emails and voice mails to me. I decided to start over and have a fresh start.

Getting over my ex girlfriend up took me a long time. You cannot get over a breakup overnight, it takes time but in the end you will laugh at yourself for having been so down and focusing energy on something that ended.

Benjamin Dodier
Age 22
Occupation: student