RULE #4: Notice How She Became MORE Attractive To You After The Break Up…

Especially when things are the most painful its almost impossible not to idealize her.

In fact, the more pain you are in, the MORE likely you are to think about how great things were.

If your break up was sudden and you’re still dealing with trying to accept it…

If your ex girlfriend wanted to leave and you REALLY liked her…

Or if she left you and she is ALREADY with another guy…
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Then this just amplifies the intensity of the broken heart and the pain you’re feeling.

Without you knowing it, your mind starts to rewrite history.

This is why so many guys stay hung up on an ex girlfriend that has long since moved on..

This is why they will keep justifiying and rationalizing to their ex girlfriend why they think they should stay together…

And this is why they keep trying to get back together with their ex girlfriend even after she cheated or started dating other guys…

It’s because the pain they are in clouds their mind and elevates everything they remember about their ex girlfriend.

When dealing with the pain of a bad break up your mind distorts how things actually felt with her.The “distortion” just becomes more vivid the more heartbroken you are, and this becomes especially bad when you have those days and you keep walking around and everything reminds you of her. And you start to think about all the things about her that were so great…

So all the little things you remember about her start to take a new meaning…

The places you used to go, her little quirks that only you noticed…

Your inside jokes and the way you could be more “yourself” around her.

The history the two of you have and the connection the two of you have of it that you can’t get anywhere else…

Its so easy to see only those things… And remember the entire relationship as if it was only that…

The best advice on getting over a break up quickly is for you to see that its an illusion… The more you miss her and more imbalanced the decision to break up was (i.e. she left you), the more attractive all of those things about her become.

Guys will spends a huge part of their lives longing for a girlfriend that only exsists in their memory..

While interviewing men about how they handled their last bad break up I talked to a few that ended up getting back together with their ex girlfriends after sometime spent apart.

There is one thing THEY ALL admitted to.

After the first few days and the initial excitement of getting her back, they were surprised how their real experience with their girlfriend didn’t match all the fantasies they had about her while they were broken up.

In short they were actually disappointed by the reunion, even after so much time imagining and anticipating it.

You still can’t get over her no matter how much time passes if she keeps that elevated spot in your mind…It’s incredibly tough at first, especially if you are thinking about her all the time, not to long for those things you liked so much about her.

Don’t get me wrong…

This “illusion” of how great she is more REAL than anything else right now.

But the problem comes when you keep holding onto it…This is how guys keep themselves from healing after a break up… And they stay stuck in limbo for months or years afterwards.

And of course because of all the ideals we’ve been taught about love and romance we think its somehow romantic to keep hanging on even after things have gotten really bad… But more on that later. So basically what’s important is that…

You’ll save yourself ALOT of pain and get over her faster if you remember that your idealization of her is temporary and it will fade if you allow it

Takeaways…

  • Keep in mind its natural to idealize and you won’t be able to help it for a while. When you can try and notice when you’re doing it.
  • Notice that when things seem especially painful and hazy now, your past with her seems even MORE appealing and colorful.
  • Remember that this idealization exsists only with you and but NOT with your ex girlfriend, because if she is the one that wanted to leave she doesn’t have the same rosy picture you have.

 

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