RULE #3: Healing A Broken Heart & Moving On Is Easier For HER Because She Had A “Head Start”…

This can be a REALLY HARD thing to accept…

Often a way guys will try to feel better after a break up is to think about how much pain their ex girlfriend must be in and that it is just a matter of time before she sees the mistake she is making.

But if your ex girlfriend is the one who ended the relationship…

If she was the one who left or has been trying to leave for a while…

If she is the one who cheated on you or left you for another guy…

Then she has been dealing with the idea of breaking up and no longer being with you for a while.

Getting over a broken heart feels isolating so it can be tempting to think she is pain too.If that “broken hearted” feeling is as overwhelming as I know it can be, it may be hard to imagine her not being in as much pain. So the more the heartbreak settles in the more it becomes easy to think that anyday now she’s going to come around. And that unless she’s a heartless b*&$! she must be in some agony.

What ends up happening is that this often leads to a false sense of anticipation… That you guys might get back together… Maybe even sometime in the near future.

(All the Hollywood movies, television and music don’t help here…)

All of which set you up for an even more painful broken heart that day when a friend tells you…

Or you see her online profile…

Or worse yet you run into her…

…and you find out she is with another guy.

A sad truth about relationship break ups is that one person is more “over it” than the other…Chances are she didn’t make this decision in an instant although it may have seemed like it. People (including your girlfriend) usually don’t make decisions that way… She probably thought about it… Talked it over with friends… She probably rehearsed in her mind and thought about it over and over again.

What this really means is that she isn’t in as much SHOCK as you are.

Your ex girlfriend is probably conflicted about breaking up… BUT has already found a way to cope… Because she had a head start and because she is further along in the process of moving on, the things that are important and powerful to you won’t be as important to her…

Once you see that she is more “over you” than you are of her, what you expect from her and how you see her will start to change…

What this also means…

  • Pouring your heart out, sending emails and reaching out to her are not as meaningful to your ex as you want them to be…
  • Because she is conflicted she may very well send you mixed messages or keep doing things to lead you on or keep you around.
  • Once you see that she has alread moved on, as painful as it is, it will start to motivate you to do whatever you can to get over the broken heart and not stay hung up on her anymore.

 

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