RULE #1: Getting Over Her Starts When You STOP Trying To Get Her Back…

The first few nights and weeks after she’s gone are the toughest…

This is when your mind starts racing with all kinds of ways of getting her back, and you feel this profound edginess compelling you to DO SOMETHING about it.

DON’T.

The biggest reason many guys RUIN their chances of staying friends with their ex girlfriend or rebuilding something later…

…And the reason most guys feel HUMILIATED about it later is because they acted out of desperation.

So whatever you do, don’t be “that guy.”

You know… The guy who keeps call calling, texting, emailing… The guy who begs or cries… The guy who won’t take no for an answer and hangs on at the cost of his dignity.

The guy who confuses being WEAK with “being romantic”…

You start to get over a broken heart when you stop allowing her to make it WORSE for you…

And just about nothing will make you feel more heartbroken then leaving yourself open for her to reject you again.

Guys will often spend so much time fantasizing about how to get back together with their ex girlfriends that they don’t give themselves the space to actually move on and get over her.

One of the toughest parts about trying to get over an ex is that your mind will hardly let you think about anything else… Especially if you really liked her.

The biggest regret that almost all the guys I have interviewed have told me is that they didn’t accept that it was happening… So they kept trying to convince her or show her how important she is. And that not only did they spend most of their time fantazing about winning her back (or getting back at her) but they ended up staying hung up on her long after she had moved on.

While its natural, and for a while it will be almost impossible to not to keep thinking about her, everytime you act on your thoughts it will dig in the pain further, you’ll stay fixated on her and you’ll get further away from getting over the breakup and the pain of being heart broken

Takeaways…

  • When you feel an especially powerful urge to call or talk to her, those are the times you are the mostly likely to say or do something you’ll feel stupid for later. DON’T DO IT.
  • How you behave now is how SHE is going to remember you. If you keep your composure and walk away with dignity.
  • You’ll be far more likely to stay friends with her and she’ll respect you more if you quit while you’re ahead.